Doug here.
For the past twelve years or so I have had the honor of mentoring hundreds of unfaithful individuals.
It's very clear that most are struggling with what to do and how to help their betrayed partners throughout the recovery and healing process.
Here are some things I typically hear:
That's just a sampling of what I hear.
And while mentoring is a good solution for many people, some need more...
They need more structure, more focus and more accountability in order for them to be successful.
So, I sat down and brainstormed the issues that come up during a typical mentoring call with an unfaithful person and to better help these individuals.
The answer:
"One-on-One Coaching for the Unfaithful Person"
Understanding why you had your affair – The meaning of your affair
Understanding your betrayed spouse and what he/she is going through
Developing empathy for your spouse
Evaluating the realities of your marriage and your relationship with your affair partner
Getting off of the fence
The proper way to end your affair
Working through the affair withdrawal process
How to handle your spouse’s emotions and triggers
Working on improving your harmful responses – anger, defensiveness, conflict, etc.
Relapses and setbacks
Living a life of honesty and transparency
Developing a healing mindset
What are your responsibilities in the recovery process?
Personal reflection and making changes
How to be proactive in the recovery and healing process
Demonstrating remorse
Emotional availability and emotional intelligence
Setting and achieving personal and relational goals
Self-forgiveness
Dealing with guilt and shame
Anything else that you feel you need or want to focus on
Thank you! Thank you for helping me through some of my darkest days, helping me see that I am better than who I was told I am. Helping me see what's really important and helping me take the steps to get where I need to be.
I have sent you a picture of my kids and I. This is my “new” family. These are the faces of the people you have mentored for some time and I so truly appreciate the experience of speaking to you, because it has made my journey easier to deal with, no matter what the outcome.
Having a support system is so important and I am grateful to have the ones I have had over this trying time in my life. And we will be fine. I truly believe we will.
Doug what I can say, it was a mixed blessing to meet someone that has knowledge of the situation I was in and came in a different approach than many of my therapists.
Your understanding of the grief phases and rebuilding has been extremely helpful for me.
Your guidance during difficult moments have helped me understand what I want out my relationship and how to really acknowledge the pain that I created.
Our discussions helped me look inward and find out why I did what I did. I now realize how basic or simplistic this affair started and I don’t have a silver bullet of what happened, I gained a lot of knowledge about why it won’t happen again.
Both Lori and I have learned a lot about ourselves, made some acknowledgements to each other.
We know can talk things through without either of us getting frustrated to point of leaving the conversation or room.
I truly appreciate your support and respect during difficult time in my life.
I will keep you posted on further updates and or developments,
Thanks again!
Individual Coaching 2-Times per month
Private one-hour coaching session every-other week (2 times per month) with Doug ($250 Value)
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Full membership to the Affair Recovery Movement, which includes all of our recovery programs. This incudes the Unfaithful Person's Guide to Helping Your Spouse Heal, Survive and Thrive, Empower ME!, the Affair Recovery Group, the Recovery Library, Group Support Sessions, and more. ($300 Value)
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Should you have any questions or need advice, just shoot Doug an email and he'll respond in a timely manner. ($200 Value)
1) This should not be something that you are being forced to do. You have to want this - because it is a commitment.
2) Secondly, I promise not to judge (after all, I've been in your shoes myself), but I also will not sugar-coat anything. So, some of my answers/advice might not be what you want to hear. And a kick in the pants at times might be appropriate. Just saying.
3) Lastly, I'm not doing these sessions simply to preach to anyone for an hour at a time. This program will only be as effective as the time, effort and interaction you put into it.
4) Here's My Disclaimer: To be clear, I am not a therapist or counselor, nor is this program meant to be a replacement for therapy or counseling. I have personally been through what you are going through and have probably made the same mistakes along the way. The resulting knowledge and experiences I provide can serve as an excellent companion to traditional therapy or counseling.
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